Moving forward from Part 1....
At the same time, me knowing what sexual immorality can do to you and keeping quiet about it is like this analogy perfectly explained by China Mcclain in one of her videos on Instagram. It was a different context but it suits this quite well too. Two best friends are painting in the house. One of them gets tired and wants some fresh air so she picks her dog and heads to the backyard to catch some fresh air. She opens the door and steps out only to spot a huge snake in the grass. She grabs the dog and quickly heads back into the house and does not say a thing to her best friend. Her best friend then says, "Oh you’re back, let me go out to the backyard for some fresh air as well.”
Her best friend does not say a word and when she steps into the yard, the snake bites her😢. She shakes the snake off her leg and limps back into the house yelling, "A snake has bitten me, help please.” Then her friend comes to her and says, "Oh, I saw the snake, sorry I did not warn you!” The one who the snake has bitten looks at the other in disbelief and goes, "Are you really my friend, do you even love me?!!.”
This analogy is dramatic but this is exactly why I am writing about this. Sexual immorality is one of the huge snakes in our backyards and it will bite you like it did me if I don’t tell you. I am deterring you from wasting time and getting entangled in unnecessary soul ties let alone bringing innocent children into this world where their parents may not even want to be with each other for the long haul. That’s not a topic for today. Let me stop there.
Let no man or woman lie to you that sleeping with you means they love you because then that means it is conditional. The condition being sex which by all means you don’t need conditional love. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you self-control and discipline. Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. You can not do it by yourself. You don't have the strength or will to fight your flesh.
We all have triggers, they vary from one person to another and here is some things that will help with your purity journey.
Guard your eyes and ears. Keep away from explicit sex scenes in movies, sexting with crushes and 90’s R&B Music and just sensual over sexualized music. Yeah that stuff will mess you and your hormones up. You know what's happening to you while you watch it. Let's be honest with ourselves.
Proverbs 4:23 says Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. The Bible says guard your heart because the heart can't conceive what it has not been exposed to.
Get an accountability partner who is walking the same journey you are and if you are addicted to porn, have a tech geek block all sites on your gadgets. Like everything else, you have to be intentional about living a sexually pure life and it is possible.
Having friends who have sex and tell you all about their explicit encounters is detrimental to your purity journey. 1 Corinthians 5:13 says Do not be fooled, bad company corrupts good character. You might want to get yourself new friends or you can keep testing your flesh and trust me it will win.
Watch Pastor Mike Todd’s sex series or get his book, Relationship Goals and educate yourself about sex because clearly what I have touched on is the tip of the iceberg.
While you intentionally date, make sure your partner does not develop ideas. Make it known that you are waiting till marriage. Be willing and strong enough to let go of options that won't wait with you. Honey, if they are unwilling to honor God on this, they will not honor you any way. They are not worth a damn THING! You are too damn fine to stress!
Matthew 7:6 says, "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
Oh yeah, don’t be a hero/heroine and go to your partner’s home alone and stay till late or have “innocent” sleep overs. Don’t play those games. You will need rehabilitation after the lesson your flesh will teach you. You might also just get raped, let’s not pretend like that does not happen anymore.
Apostle Paul's advice- But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Corinthians 7. I don't believe dating for long is a wise choice. It's a recipe for temptation. if you have found the one and have sought guidance from your leaders and mentors- please marry.
James 1:15 warns us that when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin and when sin is full grown brings forth death. Yeah some times we don't the long term catastrophic effects of our mistakes as they begin until they come back to bite us.
I have not exhausted everything and maybe, I will write some more on this topic but please do your research, read the Word Of God and find sermons about this topic. I am a work-in progress too and God is helping me win day by day. Some days are much better than others. When you fall, the trick is to get back quicker than you fell and not to wallow in self-condemnation. The enemy thrives there.
Let’s be the hope for the next generation, educate ourselves on the biblical standard and moral perspective of sex and why God designed it for a husband and wife in Holy Matrimony. Your children will have a better life, equipped parents to talk to them about it and no sexual generational curses and patterns following them around.
And Ladies and gentlemen, when you finally say I do, go at it like you are trying to win an Olympic medal if you must. I don't mean do things you're uncomfortable with. Be vocal about that but do not have a mediocre sex life in marriage either. I’m pretty sure that’s an insult to God’s creation. Ask Him to make it extraordinary. Do everything as if you are doing it unto the Lord😉😎. Put your back into it!! And your front too! LOL, Not kidding at all!
As always, I am happy to share my thoughts and will be glad if you like and leave a comment below. Love y'all. Until next time. Stay Fine and Pure!
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